Thoughts on Motherhood
Part II: Chasing Rainbows
Part II: Chasing Rainbows
My childhood was a good one.
I have memories full of fresh raspberries from the back
alley, and dirty carrots from the garden. We had a big, beautiful, smelly dog.
I dug up worms. We slid down snow covered hills. When my mom made bread she would give me a little chunk of
dough to play with. And when the sun would shine through the kitchen window,
she would spin the crystals that hung there, so I could chase the rainbows. I
got sunburns and mosquito bites. And sometimes mosquito bites on sunburns. We
climbed mountains. We slept in tents. My mom read to us when we were young. We
got lost together in Narnia, and on the Prairie, and at Green Gables. She sang
to me to help me sleep. She would race me to do up my seat belt when we got in
the van. My dad let me ride on his feet when I was little, and would two step
with me in the kitchen as I got older. He helped coach my basketball camps and
my volleyball teams. They taught me to pray. And they prayed for me. They have
caught me when I've fallen. Over and over.
I have good parents.
In my rush to get through each day, I have been stumbling
past the moments. Moments that are thick with phrases like "hurry up"
or "not right now." And this week as my boy's 2 bottom adult teeth
have snuck into place, I feel an urgency that is hard to explain. A need to
offer him some magic moments. Some rainbows to chase. A feeling that I've
failed him. That we've run out of time to experience the magic, and that real
life is going to hit any minute.
And if I think hard, about what would stick, even if all
magic ended as adult teeth arrived, I realize that he has had magic. Walks
through ivy covered forests. Entire days on warm, breezy beaches. Books. More
books than I can count. Evenings around fires, and nights in tents. Staying up
late for fireworks, and getting up early to catch ferry boats. Imaginary dragon
friends. Snuggles, wrestles, tickles and rounds and rounds of "pinchy
pinchy pokey pokey." We've had adventures, in stories, and in real life. We've swam in the ocean and lakes. We've dressed up as super heroes, as pirates as ninjas and as animals. We've cried, we've
laughed, and occasionally, we have dance parties in the kitchen.
And although I do feel an urgency to start my own collection
of crystals, to hang in my window, I realize that we've had truly beautiful experiences together. One day my kids will be able to say "My childhood
was a good one." Why? Because they have a mama, who will do all she can to
offer them experiences of beauty, love, connection, and magic.